Twenty years ago, we embarked on an incredible journey, leaving behind the familiar and stepping into the unknown. As we reflect on two decades in Africa, we’re reminded of God’s faithfulness, guidance, and love.
2006: Our early months in South Africa were marked by excitement, curiosity, and a deep desire to learn and grow. We were blessed to join an amazing team of veteran missionary families with One Challenge International, who introduced us to life and ministry in Africa. The first year was a whirlwind of finding a house, learning the language, navigating the varied local cultures, and lots of kilometers traveled.
We took Zulu language lessons and each month we had an adventure where we traveled to Swaziland (now Eswatini), or Zimbabwe, Mozambique, and many of the provinces in South Africa. We visited churches where we couldn’t understand the language and we began to make connections and develop friendships while shadowing the OC families. We found a church to attend for a season in Soweto and Dan and I and our dear friends John and Heather Witherow and their three little boys were the only ones with white skin in a crowd of beautiful brown. Their acapella worship songs were wonderful (one Sunday I counted 7 different languages that they sang in) and we were thankful that the preaching was in English. This church community taught us so much. All night prayer vigils were as normal as breathing, a decent worship set ends after 2+ hours, praying for the sick is a crucial part of every service, fasting is normal and essential (21 day or month long fasts happened several times a year), and Easter is celebrated by a weekend campout where hundreds or sometimes thousands of people gathered together.
We discovered friends who became African family to us. One of the most significant friendships we formed was with a lovely couple named Themba and Buhle Bhembe. They were leading a Nazarene church in Soweto, and we had the privilege of shadowing them and learning from them. I also got to spend time with Buhle’s mother, Gogo Thelma, who was a pillar of wisdom and love. Together, we’d visit the church’s care group, which met on Tuesday and Thursday afternoons to support people living with HIV. I was humbled to write Bible studies for the group, and Buhle’s 15-year-old daughter, Lunga, would translate them into Zulu. We even hosted Christmas parties for several HIV/AIDS groups, spreading joy and hope in the midst of challenges.
2007: Dan’s older brother Jon and his lovely finance Elena trusted us to do their wedding planning and had a gorgeous destination wedding in Johannesburg in February. It was a brilliant plan to get the whole Hartley family to visit and we had a wonderful time celebrating with them and then traveling together for the next several weeks in Southern Africa creating memories that we’ll always treasure..
Shortly after, my two youngest sisters phoned to tell me they were expecting and I realized I had many of the same symptoms. Turns out, all three of us had our first-born children within 11 weeks of each other later that year. While I was in my first trimester, we led a short term team of 13 people for 5 weeks and did service projects and ministry together around Johannesburg and in Swaziland. I remember we were doing a Vacation Bible School for an impoverished area with Buhle and it SNOWED one day! Understandably, none of the kids showed up, so we did house to house visitations. Everyone was so cold and a few of the people who had never seen snow before asked if it would hurt them.
During that same time, we also discovered Breakthru Life Church and began attending there. This church has been a tremendous blessing to us ever since. They began planning a baby shower for me after we had attended two weeks, I joined a fantastic mom’s group after Miesha was born and we are still friends with many of these families today. They invited us to join their families to celebrate holidays with them so we wouldn’t be alone, we went on vacations together, hunting and horse riding on their farms, we went to their mother’s birthday parties, serving and attending LOTS of conferences, and ate all sorts of “new-to-us foods”. We also introduced our new friends to the Thanksgiving holiday, Mexican food, and some of our favorite things from American culture. Several years friends who had rarely watched American football stayed up all night with us to watch the Super Bowl! It was a beautiful sharing and blending season.
Miesha was born in December – the best Christmas gift we’ve ever received!
2008: Once Miesha arrived, we got her passport and then flew to the states for a quick four week visit to introduce her to everyone. We still maintained an intense ministry schedule after Miesha was born and she was a happy little traveller. We hosted another large student team for several months, Dan was traveling and ministering with the OC guys, and I was still an active member of Buhle’s AIDS ministry.
In August, we took baby Miesha on a 30 hour road trip up to a conference in Lusaka, Zambia. A giant pothole caused the axle on our trailer to break and we were stranded on the side of the road in Botswana. We unhooked the trailer and I went a mile further to a campground to rent a cabin before going back for Dan. When I returned to pick him up, he had unpacked many of the books from the broken trailer so that he could jump in and close the lid as he heard lions roaring nearby! As we were driving back to the lodging, we saw there were elephant footprints covering the tire tracks I had made 10 minutes earlier! What an adventure!! Dan welded the trailer pieces back together and we slowly made our way across the border. Our friends offered to fix our trailer at their shop on their mission base in Livingstone and that was our first introduction to Overland Missions.
Wherever we travelled for ministry, we were told over and over how much they appreciated that we weren’t scared to bring our child into the bush or to take her on ministry trips. It endeared us to those we were visiting and opened many more doors for us. Changing diapers while we are driving, entertaining a 9 month old with a balloon for a 3 day drive, her learning how to crawl in Zambia, having a malaria or giardia scare or two…all part of the year!
My parents also visited us for a month and we had a fabulous time playing tour guide, celebrating my Dad’s 60th birthday, and introducing them to friends and places we love in South Africa and Swaziland. We also had my Dad’s cousin Jim and my sister Julie visit who we also introduced to Overland Missions. It was a special time of memory-making with family.
We also spent some quality time in the hospital that year – Dan with multiple kidney stones, and I needed my appendix removed. We continued to partner with Buhle’s AIDS ministry, to help with mentoring the teen gals in her area, and to serve as leaders and worship team members at church, and as the short term team coordinators for OC. Dan also helped with multiple building projects in Swaziland and for a friend’s orphanage housing.
2009: Shortly after Miesha’s first birthday, we discovered we were pregnant again. We coordinated our 6-month long furlough so that Titus could be born in the states and it was wonderful to have family surrounding us and celebrating with us at his birth!
2010: Dan continued to teach at conferences, high schools, churches, and we travelled to do rural ministry in Zimbabwe, Swaziland, and Zambia. Like always, our family invested a lot into our local church as we led a life group, served on worship team, and Dan helped with sound. During this time, we prayed a lot about whether to make a big transition in ministry. After a year of seeking council and advice, we decided to transition our life up to Zambia. We had been with OCI for 3 years pre-field and 5.5 years in South Africa, but we felt like we wanted a change and Overland Missions had an open position for Leaders for their Advanced Missions Training to teach and disciple people wanting to become missionaries which seemed like a great fit for us.
2011-2013: We packed a container again and moved our life up to Overland’s bush mission compound in July. Miesha was 3 years old and Titus turned 2 years old a month later. It was big culture shock to transition from the huge African city of Johannesburg to living in a safari tent in the bush with toddlers. We were camping under billions of stars (no light pollution!) and we could often see the mist cloud from the Victoria Falls just up the road. Someone on base had to build a fire under the water tank for hot water for showers, there were tarantulas and other weird spiders on our bed and in our kitchen drawers, there was cafeteria cooking for anywhere between 30-120 people, hotter temperatures (it got up to 131F/51C that year October!) and the rainy season was epic with 4×4 driving in the mud and wild lilies growing on the road. One time a baby scorpion snuck into my jeans while I was showering and it stung me six times. Another time a scorpion crawled into my hair in the middle of the night and stung my finger while I was trying to figure out what the tickle was!! (That wasn’t my favorite)
Elephants and hippos were often on the road as we drove to town, sometimes baboons would try to steal from the base garden, we had a monitor lizard hiding in our house once (this one was “only” about 5 ft long), you had to carefully watch for snakes (we once had a Mozambican spitting cobra in our tiny house and puff adders on the path), vervet monkeys would sneak into our home and steal the fruit, and we experienced several butterfly migrations. Miesha and Titus, who were 3 and 4 years old at the time, would take the cheap butterfly nets and catch 20 butterflies at a time as they would come at drink from the puddles made while watering our plants. Some mornings there were moths the size of my hands on the side of the house we woke up. Rural Africa has a unique and raw beauty that settles deep in your soul.
We also saw God do amazing things as we partnered with Him. There was a deeper dependency on Him and our faith grew tremendously as we edged further and further out of our comfort zones. We showed the Jesus Film in the local languages and had many people receive salvation, we prayed for the sick and many were healed, people were delivered of demons, a ministry team I was on outreach with prayed over a little paralyzed girl for 2+ hours and at the end she was delivered of demons and started walking!! We really enjoyed teaching the AMT students and so many of the Zambians we became friends with, we still in contact with today. Two lovely ladies named their baby girls after me and a family from Malawi named their baby boy Daniel. What an honor!!
The next two years of building our home in the bush and co-leading the 6 months of intensive training each year for future missionaries was the best of times and the hardest of times. We LOVED the students and the teaching/training/ministry trips to the bush and being a part of what God was doing. Building the house with limited resources was challenging, living in such close quarters with such young children was hard (our tiny house was 9ft wide and 12 ft long), and living on the mission base and eating every meal with/working/playing/ homeschooling/doing ministry/attending church with the same group of people had its challenging moments too. To be honest, in this season we were burning out. We had too much on our plates, a lot of stress, and some interpersonal conflict with other missionaries on the base. In October of 2013 – Dan confessed a life-long struggle with to the leadership on the base and from that day on everything shifted for us. Darkness was brought into the light and the sin he was wrestling with for so long was finally in the open so we could get help and healing.
Two weeks later, we were back in the USA. Dan met with the men’s group leader at one of our supporting churches and began attending the Conquer Series. Following, we both joined Pure Desire support groups, and started the painful season of communicating with our supporting churches what had happened and why we were back in the states on a sabbatical for support and counseling.
A few months later, Dan returned to the base in Zambia to pack up our belongings from our little house and to officially put our big house building project on hold since we didn’t know if or when we would return. A few days later Dan was talking around the braai (BBQ) in South Africa with our pastor and three missionary friends and was processing and asking for their input and advice. Each one invited Dan to join their ministry when we returned to Africa, but eventually they all agreed that it would be ideal if Dan were to start his own ministry so that he could partner with all of them in some capacity. Our pastor told us, “Dan, take the time you need to heal and then come back. Africa needs the answers you are discovering on this journey.” Within a few months, more invitations were coming in to partner in multiple ministries in Zambia and South Africa, even one from Tanzania, but it was usually followed up with them saying “but you should start your own ministry and partner with us…” and that is where the dream of Magezi Ministries was birthed.
At that point we would’ve rather disappeared and healed in privacy, but the Lord made it clear from moment that we were to return to Africa at some point and that included a transparent and open healing journey.
2014-2015: The next year and a half was filled with healing for our minds, hearts, and marriage while it felt the whole world was watching. We did intense marriage counseling and healing retreats, we invited dear friends to join our board, did all the paperwork to start a non-profit, did support raising from scratch and continued to share our story of hurt, healing, and future hope with everyone who would listen. During this season, we experienced intense judgement and condemnation and also the most amazing grace and support we have ever felt…sometimes at the same time from various groups!
We also began our homeschooling journey during this time and that was a brilliant choice for us as the Lord has given us so many ministry opportunities in various places all over and we could take school on the road with us easily. We also had some precious time with family.
2015-2020: Exactly two years to the day later, we landed back on South African soil under our own non-profit Magezi Ministries. We recognize God’s fingerprints all over this season and give him all the glory for healing us and providing for us and making a way for us to return to the life and countries we loved so much. We knew the Lord wanted to use our story of healing and hope and the answers God had deposited into Dan’s spirit to finally overcome his pornography addiction. Dan still tells his story of healing with anyone who will listen (one time he chatted for 45 minutes with the police officer who stopped him for speeding – grin!) and the Lord opened up opportunities to share the Conquer Series in most of the South African provinces, and he has been invited to share about a lifestyle of purity in multiple nations, in youth groups, at men’s camps, at high schools, in churches, to online groups, to in person groups, in prisons, to missionaries, missions interns, and more.
As the ministry was growing, we realized that there was a huge need for hurting wives to receive ministry and I developed a course called Moving Forward that was shared in several places. I’ve also taught a course for ladies on healing from sexual hurt – it was a 20 week course with absolutely brilliant breakthroughs! We also started meeting with couples together and over the past 10 years we have journeyed with around 100 couples…some only want to meet a few times, some we’ve walked with for several years now. We both have done a variety of courses and attended conferences to acquire more skills/tools to help. Dan is now certified as a pastoral counselor which made lockdown ministry easier as he was an “essential services provider”. We realized that during lockdown, we listened, counselled, or prayed with people in North America, Africa, Asia, Europe, South America, and a few have transitioned to New Zealand and Australia after meeting with us. WOW! One of the blessings from lockdown was becoming more skilled in connecting online to help others.
At the beginning of the pandemic, when the announcement was made that the country would experience a “hard lockdown” for two weeks, we were already staying at Ettiene and Annali Bossert’s home in Bethlehem. The were in the early stages of renovating their home to be able to host and care for hurting teenagers. We all looked at each other and basically said, “think of all the projects we could get done together if we hunker down together!” and so we did. Two weeks turned into six, and by the end our hearts were so ready to leave the giant city of Johannesburg and to move to smaller community of Bethlehem.